I don’t get it. You liked me to get to the point where we could talk, and then you don’t respond when I say what’s up. It’s not even just girls; guys do this shit too.
Social decorum was developed alongside our growing minds. In the absence of the triggers of sight, sound, smell, and touch, people are generally apathetic to the needs and wants of others. Anonymity was not something that our innately social brains were bred for and the monkey at the center of the human psyche is exposed through it.
we must return to monke
Chimps together strong!
Interesting aside. The word faggot is derived from the Latin fasces. Which was a ceremonial weapon carried by the preatorian guard. Which is where the term fascism also is derived.
Basically what I’m saying is, nazis are the faggots, not homosexuals.
Alcohol
The appropriate response to hey is always.
Hey yourself, what’re you up to on bumble this time of day/night? No good I’m sure.
I’m not on any of these sites but often I’ll sit down to play a game and stare at my game library. Fully knowing if I try any I’ll like them. But instead I sit and flick through the library and end up playing nothing, maybe even buy a new game and turn it off before the load screen. Then I go to bed. I wonder if it’s the same feeling
My brother, do you know the way?
I met a guy who just liked everyone because he liked talking to people better.
I have such an easy time on dating sites. If they message me first I know it’s a bot. 100% of the time the next message is either a link or asking if I have some random off site messaging thing they’ll send me a link on.
I guess they see my profile and
knowthink “he’s gotta be desperate, just look at that pathetic fuck.”“Lol” …
Well from the screenshot this looks like bumble, which forces the girl to message first
I actually forgot that was a thing! I liked the sites that let you actually have a decent bio like plenty of fish and okcupid since I really want to know about the person and not just how attractive they can look in a picture :/
Then okcupid became tinder 2.0 swipe only and pof is apparently trying to become a streaming service…
I thought they got rid of that
I’m pretty sure that would be spammed to everyone. Chin up mate you don’t even come off that way.
Anyway check out the nudes Ive posted and DM me some time.
Maybe I should just put my salary on my profile
LOL I feel you
As a guy who used to be on bumble (met my partner there) I will say that any conversation that started with ‘hey how’s it going’ just went nowhere 100% of the time. It’s so easy to ask literally anything else. We don’t know each other, what’s the point in asking how it’s going if all you’ll ever get as a reply is either “good, and you?” which doesn’t break any ice and introduces a lull on the conversation 4 messages into the chat or if it’s an honest “pretty shit, actually” the tone of the conversation becomes immediately weird because you don’t know each other enough to pry into that.
Things you could ask:
- cuddled any cats lately?
- what made you smile today/this week?
- what song have you played on repeat lately?
- play any games lately? (depending on if they list games as their interest, most matches I got listed board games)
This way you’ll immediately either find common ground or find differences between your everyday experiences that you can talk about.
I have made countless attempts to make a personal statement about their pictures or interests and like zero responses. When I just do something stupid or not even think of it, an actual conversation.
I met my GF through bumble too but only because we knew each other and didn’t realize we both were divorced now. So I just texted her.
As someone who’s not used these things, what’s wrong with a basic handshake to establish the comms channel?
“Hey, are you listening?”
“Yes, go ahead.”
…
Isn’t that all this really is?
Seems a weird thing for people to be uptight about.
a handshake is a formality, it’s something you do to formalize an interaction, we’re formalizing an interaction on a platform that is so personally disconnected it might as well be irrelevant to begin with.
This isn’t two people in a room, you don’t need to get someones attention by saying “hey” you don’t need to open up to them by offering your hand for a handshake, you’re both there mutually for the purposes of talking, why wouldn’t you get straight to talking?
It’s almost like they could have also said something more than just “hey”
Idk I just don’t participate. I will die alone or meet someone organically and I know my odds and I’m content with it.
Go to public places or something.
Ew
literally just like me fr, hey we should marry each other.
;)
so true
Are there any dating sites where the users are actually trained on how to initiate a conversation? I bet not.
Bumble could start a free training program to get the poor sods (both men and women) who simply don’t know how to start to actually get started instead of being constantly rejected.
i feel like if people stopped pulling this small talk bullshit it would work a lot better. But for some reason people are insistent on being super fucking awkward for no reason.
“hey i see that you like X, that’s pretty cool, you know anything about Y” is automatically way less fucking cringe.
There’s an opening move thing now with reasonable template/defaults
Hey with two "y"s is grounds for execution.
you too?
imagine logging into a lemmy/reddit post, and discovering that every thread starts with someone saying “hey guys” you would fucking leave immediately.
He, funny. Why the anti-semitism, tough?
maybe its just a rothschild meme?
Sure. And the Rothschilds were never never ever a synonym for „the Jews“ that is used by anti-semites to sell you the old fucking story that jewish people secretly control the world with their amassed money and influence. 🙄
and people use the “the jews” did it as a sarcastic joke all the time with how silly a lot of the conspiracies are now. Are those also antisemitic?
