• Socsa@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    The bigger problem is everyone has kids already. But by 45 or so you can start looking for people with adult kids.

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      3 months ago

      nobody has kids at that age in the urban coastal cities. i’m 40 i’ve never dated or met a single mother.

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        3 months ago

        I had my first kid at 40, which was on the later side but not at all unusual.

        I came from a more rural area and occasionally here about people my age back there being grandparents already and just have to shake my head at those choices. It just doesn’t happen here

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          I speedran adulthood and while on one hand I wish I had waited, on the other I’ll be in my mid 40s with an empty nest which is pretty sweet if you ask me

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          yeah i grew up rural and by mid twenties all my HS peers were married w/ kids or doing drugs/prison. I was in graduate school on the other side of the country at 25 and marriage kids was a decade away in my mind.

          least to i haven’t been back there since i was 19 years old and never kept any HS friends.