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    Some parents are completely oblivious about there kids behavior. The kid will be a drug dealer and the parents are like “they are the most innocent kid.”

    On the flip side I have seen parents who are convinced that there kid is doing all sorts of stuff. In reality the kid is a completely clean slate.

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      Being so out of touch with your kid is one of the main ways to create attention seeking behaviour. Not the only way, of course, but it’s still generally a bad idea to have no relationship with your kids.

      My parents knew exactly what we were up to, and in most cases, our first time experimenting with anything like that was supervised by our parents. They wanted to make sure we knew what we were getting into and how to be safe despite taking risks like that. They didn’t really have to worry about me, I’m Autistic and have no interest in drinking or smoking anything, but my older brother and the older of my younger sisters very much partook in any of the safer recreational substances. One advantage of talking with your kids about this stuff is that when you warn them which ones are actually the problem, they have no reason not to trust your advice. There are some “not even once” drugs. There are some “you gotta try it once” drugs, and there are some “it’s not a good way to spend your money, but otherwise fun” drugs.

      Me personally, drug of choice is videogames. Way cheaper high. Though it can be habit forming, make sure it never feels like a priority over doing real-life stuff.

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        It can be really dangerous for people under 21 due to the brain still developing. It can lead to serious addiction issues which lead to no good. It is very easy to start but extremely hard to quit.

        I think it is reasonable for parents to allow certain substances in there own home. However, it should not include any nicotine products and it can’t be in higher frequent doses. A lot of these companies target youth to get them addicted young. We don’t need to encourage the behavior.

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          Yeah, part of it was that smoking cigarettes was absolutely off the table. Almost no upside, all downside. And we were kids long before vapes was a thing, but that would certainly have fallen under the same umbrella. They were both addicted to nicotine for decades and could definitely attest to how hard it was to quit. They both did eventually manage, but it was pretty obvious how big of a deal it was for them, with alot of failed attempts.

          Weed is for sure not a great idea for teens, but that wasn’t known at the time. And part of it not being taboo meant that none of us ended up being habitual anyway. But yeah, certainly had they known that at the time it would have been added to the con list for it.