• LANIK2000@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    In my experience they just stop talking to you, as if hoping you’ll stop existing or something. I’m the one doing the “best wishes” shit, just to get some closure for my self.

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      7 months ago

      I think it’s important to remember that everyone has different levels of emotional intelligence, and people like me who are mildly autistic are slow at learning appropriate responses. But more importantly, if someone treats you less than you’d like, it’s not a reflection of you.

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      8 months ago

      In my experience they just stop talking to you, as if hoping you’ll stop existing or something. I’m the one doing the “best wishes” shit, just to get some closure for my self.

      While I just remind that I exist from time to time until too lazy, by sending links to some articles or something via DMs once in a few weeks or so. This is a bit similar to stalking, so don’t do that.

      BTW, one reason I love the idea of emancipation of women is that not behaving like that isn’t some male psychology natural trait. Men just learn it, and women don’t learn it because of being treated differently.

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        8 months ago

        Your first paragraph is a bit confusing. It’s technically a fragment (replacing “while” with “meanwhile” would fix this), there’s too many implied words, and the ordering of ideas is a bit jarring. As a result, it took me a few tries to figure out you were referencing your own behavior with the second sentence. I’m saying all this because I think it’s the reason people down voted your comment.

        Try this:

        While Meanwhile, I just occasionally remind them that I exist from time to time [ ] until I’m too lazy, by sending links to some articles or something via DMs once in a every few weeks or so until I’m too lazy. This is a bit similar to stalking, so don’t do that.

        Without editing markup:

        Meanwhile, I just occasionally remind them that I exist by sending links to some articles or something once every few weeks or so until I’m too lazy. This is a bit similar to stalking, so don’t do that.

        I hope this wasn’t too annoying, but difficult writing can turn allies into frustrated enemies. I can go into detail about each change, if you want.

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          7 months ago

          Thx, it’s not annoying, my writing is sometimes like this even in my first language.

          I can go into detail about each change, if you want.

          We-ell, my sister regularly does that on every kind of mistake highlighted, so - not necessary, but thanks again, ha-ha.

          • Liz@midwest.social
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            7 months ago

            Hah, no worries! I didn’t wanna be mean about it, but it seemed like that’s why you were getting flack.