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      8 months ago

      That’s not really the point.

      If a good man has a woman turn violent on him, odds are he has a physical advantage and will be able to deal with it. It shouldn’t have to happen that way but he can probably keep himself safe.

      Flip that around, and as a woman, even if 99.99% of men will take it completely calmly, the small chance that you’re dealing with that 0.01% who will flip out and try to hurt you the second things don’t go his way, is fucking terrifying.

      Especially if you’re smaller than average and dealing with someone bigger than average, the smart thing is to not just risk it. No, it doesn’t feel good when a girl assumes the worst about me, but I get it, so I don’t take it personally.

      I can know I would never turn my strength and size to hurting to someone, she cannot.

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          8 months ago

          The exact same considerations apply. If you’re in a situation where others could physically overpower you, you tend to try avoid doing anything that gives anyone reason to do so if that occurring is even the tiniest possibility.

          When it comes to ones own bodily safety, other considerations become secondary, whether that’s fair or not.

          It’s not matter of “all of them are like that” but of playing it safe.

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            8 months ago

            Like attacking a man easily twice your size? Somebody should have told them! They could have ended up getting hurt.

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              What?

              I’m saying you’re the one who was in danger and therefore had the exact same concerns, and thereby you enforced my point that prioritising your own safety in this way isn’t about gender.

              Anyone can be at a physical disadvantage, and therefore have to rely on caution. And anyone can turn out to be a crazy person.

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                My point is - you’d think attacking a guy twice one’s size might present a risk to one’s safety, but that didn’t seem to stop them. Like, one punch from me might easily have killed them, so it’s puzzling. In a way I think they knew they were protected by their size, because I just wouldn’t dare touch them. Even when being attacked with a blunt object!

                “And therefore, it’s women that are privileged”. No, I’m really not trying to make that point, but it would be funny if I was.

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                  I don’t think you have a point.

                  You met some crazies, which just proves the point that they exist, and we all have good reason to act with caution lest we encounter one with unfortunate results.

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                    7 months ago

                    I hope I don’t need a point to participate. People with points are annoying, especially on here.

                    My Chinese teacher gave me a hundred points last week, actually, I just remembered! She was joking, sort of… but maybe I can use some of those?

                    Upvoted you too, because I’m a friendly guy. Do those count as points?