• NotNotMike@programming.dev
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    6 months ago

    “Do you think fighting can be part of a healthy relationship?”

    My wife and I rarely fight, we’ve maybe had two or three in our entire relationship, and they weren’t yelling matches We just got upset and patched things up relatively quickly. I don’t think I could be with someone who thinks raising their voice at another person is okay, and surely not if they think it can be healthy. And hard “hell no” to any violence.

    So, this is a weedout question

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      6 months ago

      I watched my sister and her fiance call each other stupid and mentally deficient, purely as jokes, and it made me feel bad for them… even though they have a great relationship and say shit like that to each other as a joke.

      I think people just have different sensitivies

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        6 months ago

        But that’s not fighting and some people have that sense of humor. Feel bad for them if they are unhappy, but if they are happy, why not be happy for them?

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          6 months ago

          I am, it just feels like to me that, on some level, they are truly saying what they think in the same way that jokes have a small nugget of truth to them. Again, perhaps I’m being too sensitive.

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      6 months ago

      This is the same with my wife and I. Nothing is worth telling at each other over.

      If there’s a disagreement, we just talk about it and it’s resolved within an hour.