• haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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    7 months ago

    I think we need to agree to disagree here. Being a parent in this world is (depending on your social status) a dangerous project that asks for a lot of responsibility.

    A billion things can happen and it can kill, maim, traumatize or change your kid forever. I know because I have been one of those kids who grew up under „naive“ parents. Its hell. Life is hell afterwards.

    So this is definitely triggering for me and I‘m not gonna give in to my instincts here since nobody deserves to go through what I went through. Suffice it to say that naive parents are not fit to be parents imo.

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        7 months ago

        IMO the problem is that we expect at most 2 people to share the responsibilities of parenting, when we should be sharing that responsibility across like 20 people or even more.

        The idea of one or two people solely raising a child is insane, for most of human history children have been collectively raised by the tribe/village.

        We’re not solitary predators god damnit, we’re one of the most social species on this planet! If even cats share the responsibility of raising children whenever they’re able to, it should be pretty clear that we’re not made to raise them on our own either.

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      7 months ago

      I’m sorry for your experience, and do hope you find the healing to alleviate triggers. I wish you all the best on your journey.

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      7 months ago

      It’s a super difficult line to walk.

      I don’t mean to minimise the problems you’ve encountered at all.

      I’m a new parent and just trying to figure all of this out. There’s always competing guidance, information, and interests to be weighed. It’s not easy to make the right choices.

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        7 months ago

        Yes, its one of the reasons I decided not to have children. the most people arent this naive or even plain abusive or negligent. You saying that its actually not just easy to do shows that you’re most likely not the problem. the people who are the problem immediately discard it or make fun of it.