Ada the Admin is in a position where she has the technical skills to run a platform, and the social skills, but not the political skills. Political skills include things like identifying dogwhistles, understanding the relationships between different kinds of bigotry, and knowing how to identify a problematic worldview from an unrelated comment. I told Ada that one of the users had offensive views, and a day later that user was misgendering me and spouting misogyny. Ada didn’t believe me because she doesn’t understand trans issues well enough, and when time proved I was right, she stuck to her guns when she should have been taking tips on how to create a safe space. What Ada has done is create a space where it is unsafe for trans people to defend themselves from bigotry more complex than Ada can personally understand. And Ada puts little effort into understanding bigotry. This is dangerous.
I get it, I get it. I talk like a nonbinary person who has opinions. And that’s not what the patriarchy has conditioned people to expect, so there’s a reaction of fear and uncertainty from people used to living in the patriarchy.