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3 days agoI broke contact with my family over twenty years ago. I learned that blood doesn’t make family, good relationships do.
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Couple things to think about.
Is the CPU supported? Anything 32 bit is pretty well done in the computing world.
Why do you need caddy and SSL? Unless you plan to expose it directly to the internet which is a risk in and of itself is not needed. A cloudflare tunnel or VPN connection will give you access if needed with less exposure and risk.
An SSD is great for speed but your going to spend twice as much for the same amount of storage and in most situations a hdd will work fine. So unless you intend to really do some thrashing on the storage with demanding high speed reads/writes or lots of read write operations you will have the ability to put in more storage for the same cost.
Be wary of using USB drives to extend your storage. I’ve seen people do it and then deal with hassles and data loss. If you need more storage at some point build a NAS from a used server. My server is mostly used parts and has worked great. External drives are fine for offline backups.
Same. Did 72.5 hours in a 5.5 day workweek (Saturday was 5 hours) when I was 18. Also had an hour commute to and from the jobsite. We paved (concrete) right around 3 miles of road that week.
Got done bought a set of tires, got home, showered and crashed for about 16 hours. Was awake for a couple hours on Sunday and slept another 12 hours then went back to work Monday morning.
Nope but I would love to be that far under water at least once a day.
I’ve yet to find a device that can survive going 30 meters plus under water. So I’m forced to listen to the world around me.
But seriously there are a lot of times where you need to hear the world around you. Sometimes I go for a walk around town with my earbuds and sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I work on a project with music playing and other times it’s not feasible.
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To “fix your life” you need to decide what is broken, make a plan, and stick to it.
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If you have mental health issues you need to address them. However an issue doesn’t just mean you can just blame that and do nothing, basically that means go to #1.
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Saying you are just bad at something and then not following through is a copout. You forget calendars and lists? You forget your cell phone in random places and then have to replace it too then right? No. Well any modern smart phone has a calendar and a to do list. Again return to #1.
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The next big one most people state is they don’t have the time. Again it’s a copout unless you are working 80 hours a week or have a multi hour daily commute. The truth is you don’t make the time, see statement #1.
I’m dealing with the same stuff with my adult stepson. He works about 20 hours per week and complains about his job but won’t take the steps to learn new skills or get a driver’s license. There are 168 hours a week, in those 168 hours an average person sleeps 56 hours. That means there are 112 hours per week you are awake, subtract the number of hours you work and then figure out how many you are currently wasting to play games and watch TV or just goof off. Divide that time in half and dedicate that time to doing the crap you don’t like doing and get it done, then go learn a skill that will put you in a better job or make your life better.
You have a lot of choices in life, but through action or inaction you make a decision. You can either make better decisions or accept the results of the decisions you make.
It might sound harsh but the world isn’t going to hold your hand like a toddler, it is however going to kick you square in the face a few times. And believe me I know exactly how it feels.
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Them sacrificing to have you is a copout. THEY made a decision and the result was your birth. After that they had a responsibility and I’m guessing they despised it. Then they took it out on you.
I’m assuming that your sibling was treated better/differently from you and given me opportunities.
Get some counseling and prepare to tell them that either the BS stops or you are moving on without them. This is especially important if you are already out on your own. All healthy relationships are give and take but the biggest key is healthy boundaries, if you set a boundary that abusive communication will to be tolerated and that you are prepared to move on without them they will be shocked and begin trying to argue with you and insult you. At that point walk away without saying a word. Break contact initially for at least a month and after that if they have contacted and seem apologetic make contact again with reinforce your boundary and the consequences.
If they truly care they will make an effort to be decent. If they continue being abusive the odds they are ever going to change is low and you then need to make a decision on whether or not their being in your life is something you want to continue with.
And go out and make some friends. Build a support system that will be there when you need it and understand that you also need to be willing to support them. I broke contact around 2002 and never got help or really made friends. I’m also very bad at dealing with people because of it.
Instead of dwelling on it find something to make your life better. When my wife passed away I learned to SCUBA dive and bought some gear so I didn’t need to worry about renting. Being under water for me is one of the best feelings I’ve ever felt, the world slows down and I can just live in the moment.
I honestly wish I could be in the water at least one a week but right now I can’t manage it.
I dreamed and wished I was and that some loving family would find out and come take me away.
Found out when I was 20 that my mother hated my existence. She told me how she “had her whole life planned out” and then she had me. Probably explains all the crap I went through a a child. My father was never really in the picture but she had multiple abusive boyfriends around over the years.
For me to not be my mother’s child I would had to have been taken pretty early on or switched at birth. I have memories to about 18 months old. Doesn’t matter now. Learned later on in life that blood doesn’t mean family.
I’ve found that the trauma actually causes hyper awareness and it’s not uncommon. https://www.simplypsychology.org/hypervigilance.html
Also while it has its risks similar risk is associated with many activities, but diving is generally a group activity and stresses the buddy system to reduce those risks. A properly trained diver who has certified to depth over multiple dives is probably safer diving that getting on the highway in a vehicle with hundreds of random people of dubious skill and training.
My plan is also to overtrain. There are operations out there who pump out divers who do not have good training and later on need retraining. My class sizes will be no more than two, always. Because I’m not doing the training for profit I can spend as much time as needed to go over all of the little details and train them with the knowledge a rescue certified diver would have in their arsenal with them only being open water certified.
I’m also planning to mainly deal with people who have been referred to me by counseling services or other therapy programs. Funding for non-profits is difficult to begin with so training and equipping a random person who makes claims of abuse isn’t likely to happen.
What you need to get started is training. Dive certification will run around 500. You can find some shops that charge a bit less and some that charge more. The biggest thing in the agency alphabet soup is to find a shop that truly teaches and then plan to do advanced certification as well. If you can travel to do the Advanced Open Water certification do it, a week somewhere warm with some diving is worth it.
Things you should really buy: mask, fins, and snorkel. Buy it before you start the class. You can go on Amazon and buy any cheap mask and snorkel set where the mask has a tempered glass lens/lenses. Skip the dry top snorkel, they don’t really do much other than cause issues (I have a design for one that would be amazing but need to prototype it first and don’t have the ability/funding right now.)
For fins you need a scuba fin, I prefer ones made for dive boots rather than barefoot ones. Then you can walk around in the dive boots and have more grip and a little protection vs being barefoot. The fins I use are Cressi Pro Light but if I was to buy a set today I would look at the SEAC Propulsion S. And buy yellow or orange fins, trust me.
After that a dive computer is a really smart buy. You have a couple choices there and they can get expensive. A good basic computer is the Cressi Leonardo series or the Mares Puck Pro + Series. I started started with the Mares Puck Pro and just updated to the Mares Quad CI but will use the Puck Pro as a backup. You can use the app that comes with the dive computer but if you use Android and want to keep all your logs in one place even if you change computers (and you probably will if you get started) DiveMate is worth it. It works with tons of dive computers and you can still have signatures in your logs. I haven’t used paper logs since my first certification. If money is no object the Garmin Descent Mk3i is one I (and many others) have drooled over.
Next is BCD and Regulator set. I’m looking at the Scubapro Hydros Pro with Air2 for my next BCD. Regulator I would suggest is the Scubapro MK25 with the G260. I use the MK20 with the G250, it’s a tank and works great. Grab a console with depth gauge and pressure gauge as well, if you can get one with a compass as well all the better.
Go learn to SCUBA dive. Being 100 feet under water is amazing.
My wife passed away February 28th 2019 and I was lost in life. I wandered into a shop and was certified to dive on June 16th after a few classes. By January 16th 2020 I was Advanced Open Water certified and on June 28th I was Rescue certified. I actually want to become certified to instruct and use my underwater videos to pay for teens and young adults who have survived sexual abuse to become certified to dive and hopefully be able to provide them a set of gear.
I personality am a survivor of mental, physical, and sexual abuse. Diving has been the best thing in my life and in less than 100 dives I have seen things that people with thousands of dives haven’t. It has also helped my mental health more than anything else I’ve ever tried. Now I just want to be in the water every chance I get.
Then it’s time to participate in the community. Find a project that does something similar. Get the hardware ID’s and configuration and submit it to the project as an added request. Stick a twenty dollar bounty on it. How much is your time worth and how much are you wasting trying to solve a problem that will continue to be more invasive? Windows isn’t free, it costs your time to fix a corporate decision.
If we would stick a few bucks in the coffer from time to time supporting our community through cash and submitting info and time helping it won’t take long before more things work even better. And we will no longer have to accept the wishes of the corporate masters. Microsoft and apple (account many others) are the IBM of the current generation and have been for a while. Look at the price of a computer before they created compatability in 3rd party computers. Microsoft isn’t losing money on home users either because they hover up all the information. Even installing software that breaks their access gives them info, that’s how they know how far to push it.
Ods are that a similar to is available. Just gotta search for it.
Your mouse is likely supported if you search. https://pwr-solaar.github.io/Solaar/
This was my initial thinking as well. Could also be something loose in the cylinder connection that is allowing it to move and shift around side to side just enough to allow the brass to deform.
It’s just a fact of life. I’m similar in that white screens hate me. I use my tablet in the evenings and the blue light filter and ultra dim modes help a lot. Still always an issue on some apps and web pages.
I came across Symfonium last night and it looks like it will be a good alternative to plexamp and it’s supposed to work with multiple servers. I’ve used plex for around 10 years and have had a lifetime plexpass for nearly as long. The recent changes they have made pushing streaming first is the main reason why i am working to switch to something else.
No clue. Not really a social person. I can say that for every day there will likely be a new trend starting and an old one dying.
My content rarely has me showing up in it and even then microphones tend to not work very well at 60 feet under water. Then again that gives me an idea, I can take a fake fish under water with an attached fake mic and do a voice over later on for some fun…
I just wish I had gotten away and found them sooner.