I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don’t relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a “what role men have in society”-way.
People like what you describe are why I feel glad I live in a very queer friendly area, even though I’m not queer. It’s just exhausting to deal with all the fragile egos in a repressed conservative area. I’m a cis hetero male, and queer people / allies respect the fact that even if I eat a pink-glazed donut, I am still a cis hetero male. I don’t have to prove my fucking manliness to every triggered dude bro I see.