I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don’t relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a “what role men have in society”-way.

  • Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    My sense of my own gender?

    I am a man. It was never a question for me. I am male. I feel it in my bones. I feel it the same way I feel that I am human. It’s a bedrock defining feature of me. I don’t have to wonder or convince myself or others. I am male, and I don’t feel like I have to act a certain way, because whatever I do is still male, by definition, because it’s me doing it and I am male. QED. I wanna wear a pink dress or play with dolls, doesn’t matter, still male. You don’t like it, fuck you and your insecurity. I do what I want, deal with it.

    Gender in general?

    I think it’s a spectrum, like almost all things. BUT, I think it’s not an even distribution. There’s a shit-ton of clustering near the ends of the spectrum (“cis male” and “cis female”). And I think for anyone who isn’t heavily to one end or the other, there’s a lot of confusion and “figuring out”, especially because people love labels, and kids love labels even more than anyone else. And gen Z kids love labels even more than previous generations, for some reason.

    And then compounding this issue is the social factors, which you’ve asked me not to discuss. But it’s important to realize what is social pressure and what is just “gender”.

    Edit: and I’ll also add that I feel bad for people closer to the middle of that spectrum, because the world we live in was not designed around them.