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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Born-Bowler-5646 on 2023-07-31 06:14:46.

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A while ago my oldest sister, her boyfriend and I, all went to dinner together. When ordering, I stated I had a tree nut allergy.

Her boyfriend freaked out, asking if I needed an epipen just in case, and I told him no, and that it was mild.

My oldest sister stated she was disappointed in me, and that I shouldn’t have told the waiter I had a nut allergy. Her boyfriend’s little brother also has a nut allergy, but more severe. They have gone to the hospital and have used multiple epipens on him in the past.

My sister said that by saying I had a tree nut allergy, I was taking away from those who are severely allergic to tree nuts.

I just didn’t want tree nuts and the discomfort of not being able to breathe properly.

Is this wrong to do?

I might be the asshole because:

My sister said that it was similar to people having symptoms of ADHD but not actually having ADHD, and telling everyone they did. It ultimately undermines issues that people with ADHD encounter. I can understand that.

I’d also like to add she said it was OK to tell family but not OK to tell restaurants because it’s not serious enough.

Update: Going to see an allergist in two weeks when I’m back in the country. Thanks everyone!