How did this start? The conversation had to be at some point
Well sort of porn do you look at son? Don’t worry, this won’t be a one way street. I love PoV cream pies. Now I need you to report to me everytime you look… at what was it again, trans gangbang? Oh thats a good one. Let me know if those temptresses get ya!
The reality is that it’s a mechanism of shame/control. You teach the kid that looking at porn is sinful, masturbation is sinful/shameful, etc… Then you install “accountability” software that rats out the kid whenever he pulls it up. He’s just repackaging an authoritarian, abusive household as “accountability.” They also have devices that connect to your TV and will shut off the audio (based on the closed captions) if it detects a profanity.
He’s just repackaging an authoritarian, abusive household as “accountability.”
this.
it’s not about the porn so much as it is the control and the ability to shame. Also, how much you wanna bet the kid gets talked to if he ever goes onto a democratic website?
Yeah imagine if this kid starts questioning anything from his sexuality to why the summers keep getting hotter. Parents should be monitoring their children’s internet usage, but it needs to be done responsibly and more like the monitor where their child goes in town. You start with discussions and trust and you verify as needed.
Yup. Same energy as a father daughter dance where everyone signs “purity contracts” and then they get a promise ring to save themselves for marriage. It’s about guilt and control and religious-based puritanism. People are making this seem like a weird sex thing with religious undertones when it’s totally not. It’s a weird religious thing with sexual undertones. Completely different!
I imagine something more like this:
Son, I got an alert that you’re watching porn. I’ll be there in 5.
Dad, why can’t we just watch porn on our own?
Don’t be silly son, how else will we hold each other accountable?
And all this regular effort in avoiding it probably just makes the son more motivated to find ways to avoid detection. Prepaid smartphone, that sort of thing.
Guarantee you this isn’t optional for his son.
How did this start? The conversation had to be at some point
Like srsly. What. The. Actual. Fuck.
The reality is that it’s a mechanism of shame/control. You teach the kid that looking at porn is sinful, masturbation is sinful/shameful, etc… Then you install “accountability” software that rats out the kid whenever he pulls it up. He’s just repackaging an authoritarian, abusive household as “accountability.” They also have devices that connect to your TV and will shut off the audio (based on the closed captions) if it detects a profanity.
All I can say is I am thankful that tech didn’t exist when I was 17. Fucking hell. The religious bullshit did enough of a number on me.
this. it’s not about the porn so much as it is the control and the ability to shame. Also, how much you wanna bet the kid gets talked to if he ever goes onto a democratic website?
Yeah imagine if this kid starts questioning anything from his sexuality to why the summers keep getting hotter. Parents should be monitoring their children’s internet usage, but it needs to be done responsibly and more like the monitor where their child goes in town. You start with discussions and trust and you verify as needed.
Yup. Same energy as a father daughter dance where everyone signs “purity contracts” and then they get a promise ring to save themselves for marriage. It’s about guilt and control and religious-based puritanism. People are making this seem like a weird sex thing with religious undertones when it’s totally not. It’s a weird religious thing with sexual undertones. Completely different!
I imagine something more like this: Son, I got an alert that you’re watching porn. I’ll be there in 5. Dad, why can’t we just watch porn on our own? Don’t be silly son, how else will we hold each other accountable?
And all this regular effort in avoiding it probably just makes the son more motivated to find ways to avoid detection. Prepaid smartphone, that sort of thing.
Yes, for sure. I always made extra effort to get access to those things most off-limits.