I am at an accepting stage that not everything that happens in your life is in your control. When things goes really bad and you dont have much control on it, I would assume a person who believes in god or religious figures has their belief system as a coping mechanism. For example praying to the god and so on.
I passed that stage where you believe a single entity has a complete control of each and everything happens in this entire universe. So falling back to god and thinking it is all according to the plan and he will find out some solution is not really an option for me. At the sametime I also acknowlede that there are some gray areas where science can’t provide a logical explanation so as to why this is happening to some of the life events.
So to atheists of lemmy, how do you cope up with shits that happens in your life that you can’t explain logically and you really don’t have much control?
My coping strategy is stubbornness, I may not win, but I’ll be fucked if I’ll let the rest of the world beat me. I refuse to give up.
Good for you. Be strong. Though I can’t say the same to me because I’m not sure if it’s worth it to suffer.
I used to know a guy with some syndrome that made his body stop growing around 6 years old, but not his head. He was in his 20’s, in a wheel chair playing pool. Pulled the stick back, and broke his collar bone. He kinda winced a bit and said ‘pain don’t hurt’ them finished playing with the other hand.
His condition also gave him brittle bones. Seeing him shrug that shit off, knowing it was just one of many, I got nothing to complain about. My sorry, but healthy ass, can just shut the fuck up and carry on. Everyone has hard times, and they hurt like hell. Sometimes stepping out of your own can give us perspective.
It’s still important to acknowledge the pain, since the pain is a sign or signal that your body was damaged and can potentially permanently ruin your body. Though, that doesn’t mean you should avoid pain forever, and it’s impossible to avoid pain forever, perhaps only delaying it. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, so I guess it’s fine as long as you’re alive.