• queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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    Calling a trans woman a man is transphobic, and it’s clearly not a matter of training because he knew not to do that before she was rude. He was angry at her for being annoying and wanted to hurt her.

    Why is this on him in the first place?

    1. He’s supposed to be the professional.

    2. There’s never an excuse to be transphobic. Being rude is a mistake. That wasn’t a mistake.

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      But walking into an Doctors office and insulting staff is excusable? He also apologised for it. Seems just like people are very quick to gloss over anything she did.

      They were both being assholes.

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        Transphobia isn’t just annoying. He wasn’t just rude to her. His behavior and words hurt all trans women.

        If he just called her a dumb asshole I wouldn’t even be mad. He could insult her without insulting all trans women.

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          Right. He used a phrasing that has been deem socially unaccaptable in the western world for less then 10 years after he, for good reason, got angry at someone. Bring out the gallows.

          Can you seriously just ignore the other side of the story because of that? Because I find her action much more baffeling.

          “I told her that I’m not competent, but I can guide you. I can refer you to services that can take better care of you.” […] "I thought I was being honest when I said it wasn’t my speciality. I don’t know how to treat them […]

          That is a very reasonable response he gave at first. Now, what kind of person would insist to be treated by a doctor that just said he’s not qualifed? And then get angry at the doctor for it?

          It’s so absurd, I’m seriously considering if this whole thing wasn’t just staged, literally real life trolling. Otherwise she’d have to be some kind of super Karen.

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            It’s considered socially unacceptable because transphobia hurts other trans women, completely unrelated to their little conflict. The collateral damage is the problem.

            I want you to think about how other trans women feel about his comments on trans women in general. He didn’t just retaliate against a rude woman. He hurt us all.