Ugh. I’m so sorry. I’ve been in recovery for years at this point but hearing this stuff gives me flashbacks. I didn’t break into other people’s houses but I certainly did and said stuff high as a kite that freaked out my loved ones. Sounds like your family loves that particular person but what they’re doing is enabling. You don’t owe the addict or your family any type of “acceptance” for that person or their behavior. They need some tough love. You hadn’t seen them for a year until they decided to break in, clearly they don’t think or care about you at all. Fuck that.

You don’t need to accept that behavior at all.