For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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    4 months ago

    Oh yeah, I’ve seen the other side of things through female friends. They generally have the opposite problem as men.

    I’d heard about guys doing stupid shit on dating apps like sending unsolicited dick pics or just going straight for sexual stuff and figured it was maybe a “yeah it happens once in a while” kinda thing, because I’d personally never do something like that. But in fact it seems like a large portion of the interactions are just that bad.

    So I can understand not putting in a lot of effort initially. Starting with small talk and making sure it’s not a waste of your time. I do the exact same thing.

    But even after it feels like I’ve started to establish a rapport with someone, the conversation still can feel incredibly one-sided. It’s like, okay, at this point you’re just kinda being disrespectful. And it happens over and over again.

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      4 months ago

      Drop these conversations, let them go cold. This person clearly has no affinity with you or doesn’t value you. Move on.

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        4 months ago

        Yes, thank you, I never would have figured that out without your brilliant insight.

        Unfortunately, because of the aforementioned probationary period at the start of any conversation, it can take some time before it becomes clear that the other person just isn’t that interested.

        Can I still be annoyed at my time and effort being wasted? Or is it just my fault for being a man on a dating app?