So when I worked in last 2 roles, I’d joke around and have a laugh with colleagues, the workplace culture of those places I guess was more relaxed, but I got that sense of lack of camaderie or fellowmanship from others too during my time working.
Sorry to be naive, but is it because some people look out for themselves and it’s kind of “Yeah you’re a funny guy but uh… when shit hits the fan I ain’t there with you” kind of shtick.
Not saying these guys are assholes or anything, but I just think with the current world in any work industry it seems to be tricky to make real friendships inside and outside of work.
I don’t know if this just me but I notice that big distinction of the joking around and sharing the same invested topics (I.e. video games) but no more than that
TLDR - Confused if people are being genuine, but they don’t really “care” in a sense?
Please let me know if I’m spouting gobbledygook, thank you.
In my experience, this varies a lot between work places and departments/teams. I’ve experienced what you describe, and it correlates with shorter em0loyment durations and loads of people “moving through”. People don’t want to bother with forming bonds when they don’t know if the person will be there in a week.
And then there’s the complete opposite: A few coworkers and I have changed employers a few times, but in the same industry, and we’ve always been part of the team “field crew”. While we generally don’t care about the rest of the company and its office personnel, we always had fun when meeting somewhere around the world. While the amount of beer filed on the expenses as “department meeting” is enough to drown a flock of horses, we often do other things together, like museums, shopping, and sight seeing. Hell, we were supposed to go parachuting together once, but timing and weather intervened. The nature of this job makes it hard to maintain “normal” friendships, so we kind of have to rely on each other for that social interaction fix.
Yeah. It also depends on the corporate culture of the group and a lot of that comes from management.
I’ve also seen cases where people need to fit somewhat in the office culture.