I can’t even afford taking care of myself but if I have kid, I would adopt instead of “making my own kid”. Why not this is not popular? These kids already came to this shithole (world) and we’re just ignoring them.
I know the answer actually, we’re just slave to our instincts…
Because more people are narcissistic than society wants to admit and they think a kid of their bloodline would be better than anything they would find at an orphanage. Also, they don’t care if they could make an orphan’s life better if they don’t care about the orphan in the first place.
Wow, that’s a really horrible and judgemental take.
Maybe, but I find it accurate.
Really? You find it accurate that many people who want biological children want them over adopting because they dislike/hate orphans?
Where on earth did you get “dislike” or “hate” from StarkillerX42’s comments?! I read the following…
People are largely biased towards their own (genetic) offspring over other children.
People are largely indifferent to orphans.
Both of these seem self-evidently true and utterly uncontroversial to me.
Moreover, the bias towards one’s own genetic offspring is, by definition, narcissistic, although we can largely be forgiven for that, since it amounts to an involuntary imperative with clear evolutionary origins.
Not really. I know some people who says “Why would I take care of bastards’ kids?”…
That might be those people’s answer to why they wouldn’t adopt, but I’d put a lot of money down that the majority of people who want their own kids feel that way for reasons that are far more nuanced, and far less rooted in hate, than “fuck orphans”.
It’s not a blood superiority thing, dude - we’re instinctually driven to procreate. If for whatever reason you can’t or don’t want to do that, you can adopt a kid and love them exactly as much and in exactly the same way as you would your biological offspring, but the idea of conceiving and bearing a child appeals to a very basic part of human nature for a lot of us.
Getting off topic now, but I find it so odd that I’m not a person driven to do that. Makes me feel like I’m disconnected from the human race.
Long ago I stumbled across the asexual community, but I don’t relate to them either. The vast majority of them still have sexual urges and are driven to masturbate. They just don’t feel like they need a partner to do so. I don’t even seem to have the ability to do so let alone the urge. So I can’t relate to even them.
It makes me kind of feel left out of being human, tbh. And it can be rather disconnecting from others.
Not a late bloomer either. I’m almost 30. Although I have always wondered what would happen if I took MDMA.
The urge to fuck absolutely develops before the urge to procreate.
Sure, but after years of fucking one can eventually find oneself feeling a biological urge to procreate as well.
I don’t know if practice is the mechanism at play but I’ll ask around