Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I mean, sure, 248lbs isn’t exactly thin, especially since you never said height, but at my biggest I was 315 and could still walk.

    There has to be more going on here…I’m so confused why being that weight would confine you so much. Yes, personal hygiene does get a bit more difficult. More hard to reach places…but scrub brushes on sticks exist.

    • BreathingUnderWater@lemmy.ca
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      5 months ago

      Personal hygiene can suffer when you are deep in a depressive episode. Mobility might also be compromised due to a disability or chronic pain and not directly weight related.

    • Pandantic [they/them]@midwest.social
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      5 months ago

      Top level comment was deleted, but I was 220 at 5’ before I lost weight and I was still very mobile, hygienic, and wearing cute clothes. Maybe they deleted because they didn’t want to talk about what else was going on.

      • Clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.worksOP
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        5 months ago

        It was quite a personal comment, and it seemed likely to get only moreso. I don’t blame them for deleting it.