He does respect me, and I have been training him. He has improved a lot in many areas. His aggression towards me has even improved substantially over the past couple months. I’ve also gotten him to stop pissing on the carpet. I just hate every second of it. Dogs are disgusting shitbeasts who emulate feelings of connectedness despite having zero self-awareness or rational thought. They are basically biological automatons with no soul. I’m convinced the only people who like dogs more than people just have unresolved trauma, and see dogs as a “safe” option compared to people. I fucking hate these animals with every fiber of my being.
She knows I hate dogs. She got a dog because she literally will not get out of bed in the morning unless she has something to guilt her into doing so. She has medical issues and severe mental illness. I respect this because I’m a good partner, and don’t take my anger out on her or the dog. Is it fair to me or healthy? No. I think I might leave her over the dog.
To be fair, I didn’t know I hated them this much until I had to start living with one. I thought I could handle it, even like it, and I was totally wrong. Now we’re probably out at least 10k to replace the subflooring if I can’t scrub the carpet clean, and I can’t, even with enzyme cleaners and pet urine-cleaning carpet shampoo. Every time I try to bring it up my gf will literally yell at me to stop talking about it and then walk away. She can’t handle the stress so I’m all alone.
Edit: Before you ask, no, she doesn’t help with the carpet unless I specifically request it, despite it being her dog. Her medical issues do not impede her from helping with the carpet whatsoever.
Well that is a lot to deal with, and I can relate to being optimistic that you will grow to like something. I can respect that you have put in quite the effort towards compromise, which is right even if its not reciprocated.
I will say that you shouldn’t judge all potential relationships from the current one, just the same as you shouldnt judge all potential companion animals from the current one.
And to be frank, I’m not surprised the dog behaves that way given the environment you described. You must admit that there is far less time to worry about the dogs well being when you and your partner might both be depressed, and despite what you say about souls, dogs have feelings and are extremely empathetic towards humans.
Its very true that dogs take on the emotional traits of their owners, including negative ones.
He does respect me, and I have been training him. He has improved a lot in many areas. His aggression towards me has even improved substantially over the past couple months. I’ve also gotten him to stop pissing on the carpet. I just hate every second of it. Dogs are disgusting shitbeasts who emulate feelings of connectedness despite having zero self-awareness or rational thought. They are basically biological automatons with no soul. I’m convinced the only people who like dogs more than people just have unresolved trauma, and see dogs as a “safe” option compared to people. I fucking hate these animals with every fiber of my being.
She knows I hate dogs. She got a dog because she literally will not get out of bed in the morning unless she has something to guilt her into doing so. She has medical issues and severe mental illness. I respect this because I’m a good partner, and don’t take my anger out on her or the dog. Is it fair to me or healthy? No. I think I might leave her over the dog.
To be fair, I didn’t know I hated them this much until I had to start living with one. I thought I could handle it, even like it, and I was totally wrong. Now we’re probably out at least 10k to replace the subflooring if I can’t scrub the carpet clean, and I can’t, even with enzyme cleaners and pet urine-cleaning carpet shampoo. Every time I try to bring it up my gf will literally yell at me to stop talking about it and then walk away. She can’t handle the stress so I’m all alone.
Edit: Before you ask, no, she doesn’t help with the carpet unless I specifically request it, despite it being her dog. Her medical issues do not impede her from helping with the carpet whatsoever.
Well that is a lot to deal with, and I can relate to being optimistic that you will grow to like something. I can respect that you have put in quite the effort towards compromise, which is right even if its not reciprocated.
I will say that you shouldn’t judge all potential relationships from the current one, just the same as you shouldnt judge all potential companion animals from the current one.
And to be frank, I’m not surprised the dog behaves that way given the environment you described. You must admit that there is far less time to worry about the dogs well being when you and your partner might both be depressed, and despite what you say about souls, dogs have feelings and are extremely empathetic towards humans.
Its very true that dogs take on the emotional traits of their owners, including negative ones.